I've always dressed in a more tomboyish fashion. Men- Do you agree with the assessment that my female friends made in regards to androgynous women? Would you date a woman who dressed in 'boyish' clothing? Women- Do you have any experience with dressing in gender-neutral clothing & if so, how was/is it? If not, have you ever wanted to, but decided against it for societal reasons? The only way to reverse these stereotypes is for more heterosexual women to break out of society's traditional dress code, and I'm curious: I cringe every time my 12-year-old niece, the only straight tomboy I know, tells me that she's had to fend off homophobic insults because she's literally the only girl who dresses that way at her school.

It doesn't help that 'tomboy' characters in all forms of media are rarely ever shown to be romantically involved with men. My friends say that it boils down most men preferring feminine-looking women, and that most androgynous women are assumed to be gay. The same goes for all of the women I see when perusing dating sites, even (to my surprise, and contrary to the stereotypes that I am often subjected to for my fashion sense) lesbians. All of my friends are much more traditionally feminine. Yet, I'm the only (straight or bi) girl in my friend group who can say any of this. My typical outfits consist of hoodies or plaid/leather jackets, slim jeans for men and sneakers or Doc Martins. I am, and always have been, a woman who prefers to look androgynous.

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